Same Sex Marriage

Marriage is a statement about a bonding and a commitment between two people. Outsiders and the State can and should honor that commitment, especially since it does not adversely affect anyone else.

samesex14_PH3_babiesThe nominal rationale, by those that oppose same-sex marriage, is that heterosexual couples are best suited for raising children.

Let’s start by saying that is an assertion. Where is the proof? Even if it were true, having and raising children is not the only reason for marriage. As I said earlier, it is about bonding and commitment between consenting adults. Turn it around. Would you want anyone to tell you who you should be with, what is right for you, and what you should do? Now let’s look at “the best for the children” argument. Having children is not the reason most couples get married. Certainly not all want or have them. Some who do, sometimes can’t. Moreover, the bonding provided by marriage lasts long after the children have left the nest. That is simply not a basis for providing the rights and privileges of bonding only to heterosexual couples.

Taking it a step further, just in case you haven’t noticed, many couples break up. When they do, the children are raised by a single parent, the separated parents, or someone else. At other times, a single adult or teenager gets pregnant. If she does not want the child, or can’t afford to take care of herself much less the child, and is not permitted to have an abortion, then her options are limited. At times the child is raised by a parent that didn’t want it, frequently under impoverished circumstances. That is especially difficult if the parent does not have sufficient education and experience to get a well-paying job. Moreover, she must spend much of her time taking care of the unwanted child. Sometimes the mother and/or the child require governmental services, or at other times the child may become a ward of the state. Many of those who are opposed to same-sex marriages are the same individuals who want to eliminate government services and reduce the size of government. Do you really believe the child and society are better off in any of those circumstances, than if the child was raised by a couple in a loving homosexual marriage?

 The bottom line is that heterosexual marriages are “the best place to raise children” is not a rational basis for not permitting and honoring homosexual relationships and providing those who wish to engage in them the same rights and privileges as all citizens. Though it may not be my sexual preference or orientation, I can still see no reason for denying those for whom it is their rights and privileges.

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2 thoughts on “Same Sex Marriage

  1. Society and organized religion reward conventional behavior. They also reward hypocrisy — acting in a way that does not reflect the reality of your being.

    Perhaps those who feel threatened by same-sex marriages should look at their motivation. Would they rather gay people be miserable — either through celibacy or hypocritical marriage — or be true to themselves and fulfill the life they were born to live? If the former, then they are hypocritical; if the latter, then they can lead a happy and productive life, if others accept them for who they are, not who others want them to be.

  2. Bernie, as usual you present a perfectly logical and rational argument, but the fact is the issue of gay marriage has nothing to do with logic or reason. The anti-gay-marriage viewpoint comes from religion, which is the polar opposite of the rational and the sane. Of course it *should* be based on fact and reason, but like many things in this world, it’s not. Most decisions are based on emotion — that’s why so many of them are bad ones. As we well know, people have long felt justified imposing their religion’s rules and regulations on others, no matter what the cost. This is simply yet another example of that tragic phenomenon. Unfortunately, saying “Hey, let’s be rational here” won’t do didly squat. When the opposition uses the argument of what’s best for raising children, it’s just a convenient and more acceptable and palatable reason than the truth, which is that gay people are seen as flawed and so it’s OK to deny them basic human and civil rights. It’s not OK, nor is it logical, rational, fact-based or in line with the things we say we value most as a nation. Discrimination never is.

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